The Psychology of Parenting

The psychology of parenting

Today’s guest is Ashlee of Live Essentially

Parenting is the most important thing that you will ever do. It is the most important job that you will ever have, the biggest responsibility you will ever be accountable for, and the most rewarding experience in your life, if it is done right. But, what is right? How do we determine right from wrong when it comes to parenting? Are certain parenting styles more effective than others? What works for one parent might not work for another. How do we determine which parenting style works best for our children?

Parenting Styles

In the 1960’s psychologist, Diana Baumrind introduced three basic parenting styles after extensive observation and research of parent-child interaction and child reactions. These three parenting styles are:

Authoritarian Parenting- Parent is boss, and holds all power and control, involves structure and strict rules, and punishment if rules are broken

Authoritative Parenting- Provides guidelines and sets standards for children, offers nurturing and supportive guidance to helping their child become responsible and independent

Permissive Parenting- Non-confrontational parenting with minimal expectations or guidelines, more of a friend than a parent

Later in 1983 a new parenting style was introduced, known as uninvolved or negligent parenting.

Uninvolved Parenting- Parents lack involvement in most areas of child’s life, providing only necessities and not meeting emotional/physical needs

Parenting Styles

Of course these four parenting styles are very basic, black and white, but in the realm of parenting there are plenty of grey areas and sub-styles, i.e. gentle parenting or attachment parenting. It is difficult to define parenting to just one category or style especially at different stages in a child’s life. For example, perhaps when a child is younger it is easier to take an authoritative approach and explain to them and reason with them why they cannot ride their bike in the middle of the road, but when you are dealing with a rebellious teenager who refuses to accept any logic or reasoning, you might find yourself becoming a bit more strict in hopes that they will understand. However, there has been proven studies to show that one parenting style far surpasses the others in terms of overall effectiveness and positive outcome of the children’s behavior, independence, etc.

Which parenting style is best?

Studies have shown that Authoritative parenting has been most effective in child development. This style of parenting increases academic success, psychosocial maturity, self-reliance, autonomy, and social behavior. By raising your children in a warm and nurturing environment, giving them guidance, but loosening the reigns, you are allowing your child to discover the world and their individuality, creating strong and confident children. Authoritative parenting provides a nice balance for both parent and child, establishing a trusting relationship and strong bond between the two.

Parenting styles can be influenced by many factors including; culture, family history, demographics, age, education, socioeconomic status, and many more. Ultimately, all of these factors should be set aside and maternal/paternal instinct along with the child’s needs should be the main focus of parenting. The most important thing about being a parent is recognizing your child’s individuality. Children are such amazing little beings, filled with life and curiosity. It is our job as parents to meet the needs of our children to the best of our ability. To tailor our parenting to best suit them and help them grow to become responsible, respectful, and well-rounded individuals.

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AshleeHi there! I am Ashlee Bradshaw from Live Essentially. I am a natural living wife and mother, who is passionate about all things green and crunchy. I love sharing my DIY recipes, natural living tips, frugal tips, and anything that else to help inspire others to live a naturally happy and healthy lifestyle. Connect with me on Facebook, Google+, and Pinterest.

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7 Foods That Help You Retain Cognitive Ability

Cognitive Ability
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Today, we have Jill guest posting from Jills Home Remedies.

Do you ever have those “brain fog” moments? You know, the “why did I walk into this room”, or “I forgot what I was even talking about” right in the middle of a sentence? I like to call this forgetfulness “brain fog”, and find that as time goes by, I find myself more forgetful.

Our minds are one of the most important things to us. It’s good to be physically fit by cleansing, eating healthy, and excercising, but what good is a fit body if we can’t think clearly?

Anytime I visit a nursing home and speak with the elderly that still have sharp minds and memories, I pray that one day that can be me! But sometimes my forgetfulness now leaves me wondering how well my mind will work in my grandmother years. ;)

If you are concerned about retaining your cognitive ability, I have great news! There are healthy foods that can help you retain and increase your brain power {cognitive ability}.

Coconut Oil

Coconut oil is a substance that feeds our brains and helps prevent memory loss. It can even restore nerve function in the brain, making it a great choice for Alzheimer’s patients. But why wait until you have a disease like Alzheimer’s before you start taking advantage of a great supplement like coconut oil? Coconut oil can help prevent mental decline, and has a list of other great benefits too! It is recommended to start out taking 1 teaspoon of coconut oil a day and work up to 2 tablespoons a day. It is essential to use organic extra virgin coconut oil to receive these benefits.

Dark Chocolate

Dark chocolate is one of my very favorite foods! Knowing I can eat dark chocolate every day to help improve brain function makes me one happy camper. :) Dark chocolate contains flavanols, which improves cognitive function. The higher percentage of cocao {minimum 70%} in dark chocolate, the better. The more cocao chocolate has, the more health benefits you will reap.

Cold-Water Fish

Low DHA levels may contribute to Alzheimer’s disease. Cold-water fish like tuna, salmon, herring and mackerel contribute to the largest amount of DHA. Do your best to avoid farm-raised fish as they are not a healthy choice.


Blueberries are a favorite berry around our house. We eat them in smoothies, food, and straight out of a bowl. The flavonoids in blueberries make them a popular food for maintaining or improving memory, reasoning, and decision making skills.

Green Tea

The catechins found in green tea helps cognitive abilities. Drink up to 2 cups a day to take advantage of its healthy benefits for the mind.

Vitamin D

Low vitamin D levels are associated with cognitive decline. Do your best to be out in the sunshine every day for at least 30 minutes, or take a good cod liver oil as a vitamin D supplement.


Eating a handful of walnuts every day may help stop cognitive decline. Walnuts contain melatonin, omega-3′s, and polyphenols. Add them to salads, oatmeal, or smoothies for a delicious way to benefit from their memory-boosting ability.

Do you enjoy any of these brain-boosting foods in your diet?


Jill Hip Homeschool Mom

Jill is passionate about making natural medicines from the comfort of her home, and teaching others how to do the same.  She is a follower of Christ, homeschool mother of 4, and a certified family herbalist.  She enjoys sharing DIY videos from time to time at her YouTube channel.  Jill also co-authors the books Homeschooling Day By Day and Trust Your Intuition.  You can find her blogging at Jill’s Home Remedies and connect with her on FacebookTwitterPinterest and Google +.

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